"Audition and Forget It": Why Letting Go is a Child Actor's Superpower
As the parent of a child actor, you've probably seen the emotional rollercoaster that auditions can trigger - the excitement, anticipation, and sometimes, the sting of disappointment. It's easy for young actors (and let's face it, their parents too) to get emotionally invested in every opportunity. That's why I want to talk about "audition and forget it" - a philosophy that can bring more peace, empowerment, and even professional growth to your child's acting journey.
The Audition IS the Job
Let's flip a common mindset that can lead to unnecessary stress. Instead of seeing the audition as a means to an end (the booking), consider the audition itself as the job. Your child's task is to step into that room, or onto that Zoom call, and give their very best performance. Period.
The booking? Well, that's a glorious bonus, a miracle even! It's dependent on countless factors completely outside of your and your child's control.
Protect Your Child's Self-Worth
Rejection is a fact of life, especially in a competitive field like acting. If a child ties their self-worth to every "yes" or "no," their emotional well-being will suffer. Help them understand that they bring talent, dedication, and their wonderful unique selves to each audition. The outcome doesn't diminish who they are.
Make Fans of Casting Directors
Encourage your child to focus on creating a great audition experience. When they're prepared, confident, and respectful, casting directors remember them positively, even if this particular role isn't a fit. Consistently doing great work is how young actors build a reputation, creating opportunities for future callbacks and callbacks are a good indication that your child is on the right track!
The Feedback Loop
Feedback from casting offices is rare - they're simply swamped with auditions to review. However, getting a callback is a fantastic sign that your child impressed them with their initial performance.
When Feedback Arrives, Embrace the Gift
If your child does receive feedback, consider it a precious gift. Be grateful for the insight and use it as a learning opportunity. Discuss it with your child and see how they can incorporate it into their future performances.
Craving Feedback? Look Closer to Home
If your child craves more regular feedback on their auditions, consider seeking guidance from your agent or manager. They can offer valuable insights before you submit an audition tape. Working with an acting coach is another great way to get regular feedback and hone their skills.
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The Takeaway
The "audition and forget it" approach builds emotional resilience and a healthy, long-term approach to your child's acting career. It helps them focus on what they can control – their preparation and performance – instead of factors they can't. With this mindset, they become stronger auditioners, better collaborators, and happier artists.
